As an experiment for my DIY home spa, I wanted to shake things up a bit for my foot soaks. A few of you know I have edema and swelling in my legs and feet. Green tea is anti-inflammatory, and I wondered that if I soaked my feet in a giant Tupperware of green tea, my swelling would go down.
Step 1: Giant Tupperware
Simply find a bucket or Tupperware, something easy to clean and big enough for both of your feet to comfortably rest in. I do not recommend anything that is glass.
Step 2: Kettle of boiling water
Boil 1 kettle of water. Just one.
Step 3: Steep 4 bags of green tea in the boiling water.
Steep the tea bags for 3 minutes. Set a timer and locate some peppermint essential oil or some peppermint leaves. Add the peppermint to the mixture to scent preference.
Step 4: Pour 2 cups of room temperature water to the mixture.
This will cool off the hot water so you don’t burn your feet.
Step 5: Soak your feet for 20 minutes.
Set a timer and enjoy yourself. Bring a towel so you can dry your feet off and some lotion. At the end of the 20 minutes, towel your feet off and lotion your feet up. I found after doing this, my feet were much smaller in size and were in much less pain.
For those of you suffering from swelling, I hope you find this useful. I will try a variant of this on my hands tonight as they also swell, and report back later.
I’ve been off the internet for a while trying to figure out good ways to care for myself as I went through my latest pain flare and manic episode. With the help of my EMDR therapist, I came up with a daily routine, scheduled by the hour, for about 4 different tasks I could do, excluding morning quiet time hour.
I’ve been practicing a rough version of the routine for about 4 days now, and it really helps when the anxiety kicks in. Knowing I have something to do at all times is extremely grounding. In the back of my mind I do know I have something to do at all times, but having a printed out schedule for a visual cue really helps.
So, my biggest tip for fibromyalgia self-care is to have a broken up schedule, especially for days you don’t work, or to manage your work day.
Morning Quiet Time Hour
I have about 7 tasks I do in morning quiet time hour. That sounds like a lot, but they’re all in the same vein – spiritual and relaxing.
I begin by putting on some chakra healing music. Then there’s yoga, with a minimum of 5 asanas (AKA poses), each held for 10 breath cycles. After this I grab some water and I meditate for at least 10 minutes, maybe more, to a morning time meditation on gratitude. Then I do intention setting, a type of meditation where you place your hands on your heart and reflect on what makes you afraid, what gives you strength, and a spiritual power. The point is to find a word that comes to mind when reflecting on the spiritual power to center your day around. When you know your word, write it on a piece of paper and place it in a drawer or your pocket, and at the end of the day read what it was. Once I find my word, or intention, I write a gratitude list with the chakra music on and sit in the dark until the sun comes up. Once the sun is up, I grab a coffee and sit on my back porch with a sacred text to read and my journal to reflect in. The point of this last step is to grab the first 20 minutes of sunlight.
I do set an alarm every day to wake up before everyone else. Some might think this is pretentious or impossible, but I really do think with fibromyalgia personal quiet time is key to starting off your day right. Investing in yourself alone and having niches for yourself is paramount to cultivating positive energy that you will need to fight the pain off throughout your day. Sometimes putting in a little more effort at the start results in ease the rest of your day.
The Rough Schedule
7AM is breakfast and more coffee. I mix up writing, laundry and job hunting until 11AM, when I hop in the shower and make sure I’m dressed with my hair and full makeup done for lunch. After lunch, around 12:30 I do “music in the dark” – either chakra healing music or my favorite tunes of the day for thirty minutes to an hour. At 1 to 1:30 PM I start continuing education. I have a few free Udemy courses on web design and writing I’m taking, and I spend this time until 5pm with a few music and writing breaks. It’s time to cook dinner at 5. After the family finishes at 7, I either hang out with a friend over Zoom or read a book and do a DIY home spa. Lastly, I finish the day with a relaxing meditation. I’m done by 9:15, and it’s off to bed.
DIY Home Spa
I’m big on physical pampering to fight fibromyalgia. I like to feel physical joy, and I take pride and pleasure in grooming myself. This is why I put on makeup every day and do my hair. Another thing I like to do is take a large tupperware container, big enough for both my feet to be submerged in water, and put a kettle of hot water (not boiling), 2 cups regular temperature water, 1 cup lavender epsom salts, 1 cup coconut oil, and 10 drops eucalyptus essential oil in it. I have a little space of the house to myself and a comfortable chair. Then I turn off all the lights, light a candle and soak my feet for 20 minutes while reading a light, fluffy book and listening to my current favorite music. If you do the foot soak, be sure to put lotion on your feet afterwards!
The alternative variation of my nightly home spa is a epsom salt bath without the coconut oil and two cups of epsom salts.
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I’m a big believer that you should feel fabulous all the time, even if you don’t think you look it or feel it. As someone with a chronic illness, particularly a stigmatized chronic illness like fibromyalgia, this can be hard. A large obstacle to me feeling like I’m gorgeous or believing I’m fabulous is when my pain levels are high. Nothing can make me hate myself more when my body leads me to believe it hates me – even though from a logical standpoint, I know it doesn’t.
Removing myself from my chronic pain is impossible on bad pain days, nor should I do so completely. But there is a way to be friends with yourself and your body to feel gorgeous on a bad pain day with chronic illness.
Listen to a lighthearted audiobook
I especially enjoy Rainbow Rowell’s audiobooks, and right now a favorite is Eleanor & Park. A good, girly audiobook to transform me into the Chronic Illness Warrior Princess of my dreams is just what I need to feel gorgeous on a bad pain day.
Help your body feel gorgeous with luxury fabrics in – and this is important – your favorite colors! Looking at your favorite colors will remind your mind of pleasant things, and the wholesome, needed comfort of the blankets will bring your body back to a sateen Earth, where you are queen of your own world. A mind-body tactile connection is perfect for conquering all kinds of chronic illnesses and the pain that comes with them.
I’m the kind of girl who has to have her nails done, but was a budget bride and is a thrifty wife short on cash. Any day of the week can be manicure day with imPRESS Stick-On Nails available on Amazon or at your local drug store. Even on my worst chronic pain days, with swollen hands, I can maneuver these easy to use press-on nails for a glamorous from the spa manicure. (They’re better than the spa manicures I’ve gotten, honestly.) If one falls off, simply pick it up and gently press back on.
Lotion is one of the many ways I cope with chronic pain and anxiety. I’m a big believer in aromatherapy, which will be outlined further below. My holy grail lotion is Dream Cream from Lush. It’s lightly scented with rose water and is a cult favorite for those with eczema and psoriasis. The lotion is extremely decadent and creamy, making you feel as if you deserve this luscious treatment. You do, my fellow Chronic Illness Warrior Queen! This is an excellent, simple way to feel gorgeous on a bad pain day.
Bring the outside in or travel to exotic destinations with your candle scents of choice, or if you are sensitive to smells, simply watch a flickering flame. When my chronic illness keeps me from traveling I love to imagine a high desert sky with a tuberose scent or trekking across Morocco with sandalwood. Please note that like unscented candles, there are also unscented lotions to help you feel safe from migraines and luxurious.
Create Your Own Story
If you absolutely can’t move or get out of bed because of a flare from your chronic illness, record a video of yourself telling a story about your day from your imagination. Perhaps you are an enchanted knight, a princess in disguise, or a fairy queen out for revenge. Or maybe you’re just out for morning coffee. Make it as simple or grandiose as you want. Maybe just vent! Be your own best friend. It can be lonely trapped inside because of fibromyalgia, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, or any other chronic illness imaginable.
Remember, it’s just one day.
No matter how long you’ve been in a chronic pain flare, don’t let your mind extend the pain into tomorrow. We only ever have now. Feel what you feel now, and honor yourself by saying, “I’m in pain, and I can handle this,” or if you can’t believe that, try “I’m in pain, and I am not alone.”
My Chronic Illness Warrior Queens, we are never alone when we have bad pain days. We find fabulousness in ourselves and in each other.